Finding a counselor who understands military trauma

7 min read · Written for: Veterans starting counseling or restarting after a bad experience.

Not every therapist is a fit, and that is normal. Screen for training, ask four questions, and give it three sessions before you judge.

1. Step 1

   Screen for specific training

   Ask whether they are trained in an evidence-based trauma therapy and whether they have worked with combat or service-related trauma. A clear yes or no answer tells you a lot.

2. Step 2

   Ask the four intake questions

   What does a typical session look like, how will we know it is working, what is the cost per session and sliding-scale option, and what do I do between sessions if things get worse.

3. Step 3

   Commit to three sessions

   The first session is paperwork and history. Judge fit at session three, not session one — but leave immediately if you feel dismissed or unsafe.

4. Step 4

   Add peer support alongside it

   Counseling and a peer group do different jobs. Veterans who use both tend to stay engaged longer than those relying on either alone.